Posted Jul 19, 2005, 4:29 PM ET by Sue
Sorry Michelle,
Nice of you to leave a crytic remark on my blog. Comment number 20 on BloggingBaby was fairly difficult to find. Next time you might just send me your remark, rather than this "sue, I have left a comment for you on blogging baby under comments....I believe that it is #20. Maybe mention which article.
Here's Michelle's comment on my blog "You really offended me with what you said and I think that you really need to educate yourself a little more before you go making such comments!!!! It makes me upset that you seem to think that you are better just because you breastfeed....that does not make you a better mom or a better person. To educate you I have listed some reasons on blogging baby on why babies might need formula! Thank you for your time.
Michelle"
Dearest Michelle,
I have done a considerable amount of reading about how the medical industry means well, but is producing bad outcomes.
Sorry you feel that your baby needs formula. Did your doctor use a breastfed baby weight chart, or just the standard formula fed baby chart. Most breastfed infants start falling of the FF chart. The formula industry has done a lot of research to make babies grow fast. Just like fertilizing your lawn makes it grow fast, but leaves it suseptible to disease, formula makes sick babies for the drugs companies to line their pockets.
Did you even know there were two weight charts, or hadn't you read enough?
Seems like you just wanted to vent your frustrations. Feel free to vent at me any time.
Try reading Obstetric Myths vs. Research Realities, by Henci Goer.
I birthed my baby without doctors or a hospital because research proves it is safer.
(Sorry everyone else, but she didn't leave anyway to reply but here)
Try reading Selling Sickness for more info.
Tuesday, July 19, 2005
Thursday, July 14, 2005
Who long do you plan to breastfeed? - comments left on bloggingbaby.com
16. Posted Jul 12, 2005, 7:40 AM ET by Sue
The Nursing Mothers Guide to Weaning by Shiela Kitzinger can answer question on weaning at any age.
My first was weaned at 14 months, my second shortly after she was two. My ex-husband led that weaning.
My third is 10 months and I plan to wean him before he goes to college ;) Otherwise he can wean or nurse whenever he chooses. I work full time, have returned to work after six weeks for each child. Breastfeeding/Pumping really helps keep me sane. It is nice to know he is well fed even while I work. Daddy stays home with the baby. Breastfeeding is the easy choice.
My first had an occasional bottle of formula before I knew better. The ex would give her a bottle of that crap to 'give me a break'. The result was always a fussy, messy baby, and no break. For the second and third, I just didn't have any formula in the house, because it is crap.
The Nursing Mothers Guide to Weaning by Shiela Kitzinger can answer question on weaning at any age.
My first was weaned at 14 months, my second shortly after she was two. My ex-husband led that weaning.
My third is 10 months and I plan to wean him before he goes to college ;) Otherwise he can wean or nurse whenever he chooses. I work full time, have returned to work after six weeks for each child. Breastfeeding/Pumping really helps keep me sane. It is nice to know he is well fed even while I work. Daddy stays home with the baby. Breastfeeding is the easy choice.
My first had an occasional bottle of formula before I knew better. The ex would give her a bottle of that crap to 'give me a break'. The result was always a fussy, messy baby, and no break. For the second and third, I just didn't have any formula in the house, because it is crap.
Tuesday, July 12, 2005
God's Will ???
Nicholas is almost 10 months old. Shall we have another. Do we leave it up to God? What about the Goddess?
My husband and I have 4 kids between us. The older sisters are 5,6&9. I've had three births, two with no drugs. Looking at the grey in my hair, and the baby on my shoulder I wonder what was I thinking. Oh, I remember, I was thinking it would be nice to have another baby to nurse.
What is my responsibility here? Shall I populate the gene pool with more healthy breastfed, born without violence babies? Can I afford it? Does my mom's opinion count at all?
More to follow.
Stil no comments, has anyone read this?
Tuesday, June 07, 2005
Posts to ...
Carla,
Hang in there you're doing great. Nicholas is 8 months, my third
baby. He does the acrobatic nursing at times, they all do. Some
moms are more tolerant of the behaviour. He is also doing the same
thing while changing his diaper. I try to keep him flat for the
diaper change in order to train him for the stinky ones later.
All mine did some acrobatic nursing. Hand the baby a toy. Restrain
the baby. Tell the baby what you want, keep still, be nice to
mommy,pat, no pinching. I try to ask for the behaviour I want,
repeating verbs with no may be asking the baby for the action you
are trying to stop.
It depends on your tolerance level. Some moms make the baby stay
absolutely still to nurse. Some moms wear nursing necklaces to give
the baby something to distract him. If I don't like the behaviour
(Pinching, pulling, biting, turning head without releasing latch,
whatever I don't like), I express my concern and put the baby on the
floor, and let him scream for a while. Nursing is wonderful and
enjoyable, for both mom and baby.
You're in the home stretch for pumping. I did about 14 months of
pumping, and continued nursing after that for my second. The AAP
bfing for 1 year as the main source of nutrition does not mean stop
then, as your co-workers seem to have inferred. Weaning is a
process of introducing other foods. I like to take a couple years
to wean. Some solids starting at six months for entertainment.
More solids later when baby seems to want them. On to soy milk
instead of BestMilk when my stock ran low. I go for the Edensoy
Organic because I like the way they test for GMO's and
pesticides/fertilizers. More than half of the US soy crop is
RoundUpReady, a Genetically Modifed (GMO) soy which can withstand
higher levels of RoundUp (pesticide).
The Edensoy Soymilk is great because it stays in the pantry until
opened, and I don't need to shop for Cow Milk every few days. I see
no need to give the baby cow milk or formula, ever.
The View NIP (Nursing In Public) stuff is all over the web. I read
a New York Times article about the Nurse In. Hathor
(www.thecowgoddess.com) wrote about it in her blog (musings).
Mothering.com has a bunch of ranting and chatting under
Breastfeeding Advocacy and Support.
Carla, you have done better than most moms already. Your success at
breastfeeding will yield many benefits for life, both yours and
Milla's. Remember, now you are the expert. You have done more
nursing than almost all of the doctors you've met, put together.
You know your body, better than anyone else can. One boob is
enough, as long as the other one is comfortable. I sleep on my
lesser side, so it is easier to use more often.
Well Done,
Sue
( The Note I replied to )
> Oh darn, I forgot about that meeting. I really wanted to go. It
sounds like it was a little less than ideal though. I haven't heard
about the hooplah about the View. Where can I read about that?
>
> This is kind of off topic, but Milla is a one sider baby. My
right side has always had a faster flow, and she's always prefered
it. The only time she'll drink from the left side is in the middle
of the night when she's too sleepy to fight me about it : )
>
> I was hoping the LLL could give me some encouragement. Things in
the nursing world have been getting tough. Milla has never been a
cuddly nurser, but these days she's out of control! She pulls my
hair, scratches my face, squeezes my nose, squeezes my nipples, does
backbends, ends up with her feet on my face, drinks in a downward
dog position, and just about any other crazy position she can think
of. Is anyone else's baby like this? She is 11 months now. If I
stop the feeding when she gets too rough, she cries like I've hurt
her. If I give her another chance, she'll pinch me again. I'm not
really sure what to do.
>
> Another question. How old until Milla can go without breastmilk
while I'm at work? Not until I wean her? I don't mind pumping most
of the time, but sometimes things get busy here at work and it's
hard for me to get away. Will not pumping during the day affect my
milk supply too much? Is it too important for her to get that
bottle of milk? I'm thinking everyone here at work is expecting me
to quit pumping when she is a year old. I guess I shouldn't be
embarassed about that, but it gets frustrating hearing, "only a
month to go!"
>
> Thanks for listening : )
>
> Carla
>
(my original post)
> Sue wrote:
> Hi,
>
> Sorry about lurking for a couple weeks. I've been following the
> hooplah about the View. I did love to see the lacvtivists
converge
> on an issue. I also sent Barbara Walters an email.
>
> Still waiting to hear about my appeal for the rest of my maternity
> leave pay. My large auto company employer said I am the first to
> use a midwife without a backup doctor. Still trying to get three
> weeks salary back.
>
> Went to La LecheLeague yesterday. I don't think I'll go back. So
> sad. I understand LLL needs to be middle of the raod, not
extreme,
> but I did not feel heard. Other than nodding in agreement that
this
> is normal, when problems are raised, I wasn't really allowed to
> contribute.
>
> When a mom mentioned green poop, I said too much foremilk, switch
> sides less. The leader looked in her book, and talked about
getting
> baby to take both sides at every feeding, and switching halfway
> through a normal nursing stretch to prime the other side. After
she
> went on into complicated nursing schedules, she finally recanted
and
> said maybe switch sides every three hours.
>
> Also a mom with a five day old baby who would only take one side
> came in for help. All they mentioned was possible causes for the
> trouble. I couldn't get in a word of encouragement, and didn't
> really agree with their approach. Something about pumping, and
> getting the milk in any way you can. What happened to just spend
> all your time nursing, and the baby will be fine. So sad, she had
a
> scheduled C section, and the baby is still groggy. I fear that
the
> experts may be over complicating it for her. No one mentioned
that
> some moms only nurse on one side, and the baby does fine, twins do
> fine, most moms have a side that is preffered, or produces
better.
> If she is having success with one side, she should rejoice in
that.
> She even mentioned that she has to change a lot of diapers. I
wish
> she would have gotten support, not an errand to run to pick up a
> thingy for the other side for wearing in her bra to get the milk
> out? Then her spouse came to get her, as she was finally getting
> some help with positioning. He stood with his hands on his hips,
> hovering over her. She gave him the baby and asked him to take it
> to the car. No one addressed that maybe the hubby was less than
> supportive, his posture said "I will see this, and be able to
cotrol
> it later, I will help fix her".
>
> Remember this was just my perspective. I thought I saw a mom
> successfully nursing who should be told not to worry, things are
> fine. I heard this is wrong, we will fix you. I will pray for
her.
>
> Am I too crunchy for LLL? It seems like watching a train wreck.
> Why can't we just let moms nurse? Do we always have to fix them?
>
> I remember the rocky start I had with my first. I had never seen
a
> baby nurse, the nurses all gave conflicting advice, the doctor
> talked my ex-husband into giving Sophia formula while they were
> still stiching me. Of course her blood sugar was low, they hadn't
> let me eat for more than 24 hours.
>
> I want to help but have no idea where to start. Breastfeeding is
> easy, and free. I nurse proudly in public as an example for
others.
>
>
> Sue
Hang in there you're doing great. Nicholas is 8 months, my third
baby. He does the acrobatic nursing at times, they all do. Some
moms are more tolerant of the behaviour. He is also doing the same
thing while changing his diaper. I try to keep him flat for the
diaper change in order to train him for the stinky ones later.
All mine did some acrobatic nursing. Hand the baby a toy. Restrain
the baby. Tell the baby what you want, keep still, be nice to
mommy,pat, no pinching. I try to ask for the behaviour I want,
repeating verbs with no may be asking the baby for the action you
are trying to stop.
It depends on your tolerance level. Some moms make the baby stay
absolutely still to nurse. Some moms wear nursing necklaces to give
the baby something to distract him. If I don't like the behaviour
(Pinching, pulling, biting, turning head without releasing latch,
whatever I don't like), I express my concern and put the baby on the
floor, and let him scream for a while. Nursing is wonderful and
enjoyable, for both mom and baby.
You're in the home stretch for pumping. I did about 14 months of
pumping, and continued nursing after that for my second. The AAP
bfing for 1 year as the main source of nutrition does not mean stop
then, as your co-workers seem to have inferred. Weaning is a
process of introducing other foods. I like to take a couple years
to wean. Some solids starting at six months for entertainment.
More solids later when baby seems to want them. On to soy milk
instead of BestMilk when my stock ran low. I go for the Edensoy
Organic because I like the way they test for GMO's and
pesticides/fertilizers. More than half of the US soy crop is
RoundUpReady, a Genetically Modifed (GMO) soy which can withstand
higher levels of RoundUp (pesticide).
The Edensoy Soymilk is great because it stays in the pantry until
opened, and I don't need to shop for Cow Milk every few days. I see
no need to give the baby cow milk or formula, ever.
The View NIP (Nursing In Public) stuff is all over the web. I read
a New York Times article about the Nurse In. Hathor
(www.thecowgoddess.com) wrote about it in her blog (musings).
Mothering.com has a bunch of ranting and chatting under
Breastfeeding Advocacy and Support.
Carla, you have done better than most moms already. Your success at
breastfeeding will yield many benefits for life, both yours and
Milla's. Remember, now you are the expert. You have done more
nursing than almost all of the doctors you've met, put together.
You know your body, better than anyone else can. One boob is
enough, as long as the other one is comfortable. I sleep on my
lesser side, so it is easier to use more often.
Well Done,
Sue
( The Note I replied to )
> Oh darn, I forgot about that meeting. I really wanted to go. It
sounds like it was a little less than ideal though. I haven't heard
about the hooplah about the View. Where can I read about that?
>
> This is kind of off topic, but Milla is a one sider baby. My
right side has always had a faster flow, and she's always prefered
it. The only time she'll drink from the left side is in the middle
of the night when she's too sleepy to fight me about it : )
>
> I was hoping the LLL could give me some encouragement. Things in
the nursing world have been getting tough. Milla has never been a
cuddly nurser, but these days she's out of control! She pulls my
hair, scratches my face, squeezes my nose, squeezes my nipples, does
backbends, ends up with her feet on my face, drinks in a downward
dog position, and just about any other crazy position she can think
of. Is anyone else's baby like this? She is 11 months now. If I
stop the feeding when she gets too rough, she cries like I've hurt
her. If I give her another chance, she'll pinch me again. I'm not
really sure what to do.
>
> Another question. How old until Milla can go without breastmilk
while I'm at work? Not until I wean her? I don't mind pumping most
of the time, but sometimes things get busy here at work and it's
hard for me to get away. Will not pumping during the day affect my
milk supply too much? Is it too important for her to get that
bottle of milk? I'm thinking everyone here at work is expecting me
to quit pumping when she is a year old. I guess I shouldn't be
embarassed about that, but it gets frustrating hearing, "only a
month to go!"
>
> Thanks for listening : )
>
> Carla
>
(my original post)
> Sue
> Hi,
>
> Sorry about lurking for a couple weeks. I've been following the
> hooplah about the View. I did love to see the lacvtivists
converge
> on an issue. I also sent Barbara Walters an email.
>
> Still waiting to hear about my appeal for the rest of my maternity
> leave pay. My large auto company employer said I am the first to
> use a midwife without a backup doctor. Still trying to get three
> weeks salary back.
>
> Went to La LecheLeague yesterday. I don't think I'll go back. So
> sad. I understand LLL needs to be middle of the raod, not
extreme,
> but I did not feel heard. Other than nodding in agreement that
this
> is normal, when problems are raised, I wasn't really allowed to
> contribute.
>
> When a mom mentioned green poop, I said too much foremilk, switch
> sides less. The leader looked in her book, and talked about
getting
> baby to take both sides at every feeding, and switching halfway
> through a normal nursing stretch to prime the other side. After
she
> went on into complicated nursing schedules, she finally recanted
and
> said maybe switch sides every three hours.
>
> Also a mom with a five day old baby who would only take one side
> came in for help. All they mentioned was possible causes for the
> trouble. I couldn't get in a word of encouragement, and didn't
> really agree with their approach. Something about pumping, and
> getting the milk in any way you can. What happened to just spend
> all your time nursing, and the baby will be fine. So sad, she had
a
> scheduled C section, and the baby is still groggy. I fear that
the
> experts may be over complicating it for her. No one mentioned
that
> some moms only nurse on one side, and the baby does fine, twins do
> fine, most moms have a side that is preffered, or produces
better.
> If she is having success with one side, she should rejoice in
that.
> She even mentioned that she has to change a lot of diapers. I
wish
> she would have gotten support, not an errand to run to pick up a
> thingy for the other side for wearing in her bra to get the milk
> out? Then her spouse came to get her, as she was finally getting
> some help with positioning. He stood with his hands on his hips,
> hovering over her. She gave him the baby and asked him to take it
> to the car. No one addressed that maybe the hubby was less than
> supportive, his posture said "I will see this, and be able to
cotrol
> it later, I will help fix her".
>
> Remember this was just my perspective. I thought I saw a mom
> successfully nursing who should be told not to worry, things are
> fine. I heard this is wrong, we will fix you. I will pray for
her.
>
> Am I too crunchy for LLL? It seems like watching a train wreck.
> Why can't we just let moms nurse? Do we always have to fix them?
>
> I remember the rocky start I had with my first. I had never seen
a
> baby nurse, the nurses all gave conflicting advice, the doctor
> talked my ex-husband into giving Sophia formula while they were
> still stiching me. Of course her blood sugar was low, they hadn't
> let me eat for more than 24 hours.
>
> I want to help but have no idea where to start. Breastfeeding is
> easy, and free. I nurse proudly in public as an example for
others.
>
>
> Sue
Friday, May 13, 2005
Tuesday, April 05, 2005
Comments for Beatutiful Day
Breast feeding is easy and natural. Please stop listening to those idiots who say it is hard. Just whip it out.
Beware doctors. They know very little about BF'ing and most of it is wrong.
Sheila Kitzinger writes about breastfeeding, and it was very helpful. In essence, take off your shirt and go lay down with the baby.
I started back to work at 6 weeks for each of my three kids. One is still nursing at 6 month, another had more than two years, and the first had more than a year. BF'ing makes baby care easier. I just throw a diaper in my purse, and we're off.
Hang in there, you're doing great. Just remember we all make different choices about parenting. Have confidence in your choices.
Beware doctors. They know very little about BF'ing and most of it is wrong.
Sheila Kitzinger writes about breastfeeding, and it was very helpful. In essence, take off your shirt and go lay down with the baby.
I started back to work at 6 weeks for each of my three kids. One is still nursing at 6 month, another had more than two years, and the first had more than a year. BF'ing makes baby care easier. I just throw a diaper in my purse, and we're off.
Hang in there, you're doing great. Just remember we all make different choices about parenting. Have confidence in your choices.
Tuesday, March 22, 2005
Comments for Baby Makes Seven today.
Wrote so much on Anita's comment area, I thought I should post it as my own blog.
Thanks for reminding me that I am not alone. Nicholas has been nursing almost nonstop for a couple days. We even fed him some rice cereal to fill him up yesterday. He's six month and I am just about ready to make solids a regular part of his day. Currently I have just been letting him taste.
I was worried about my supply, if he is getting enough, is he growing, then I read your post. Seems easier to see now. Just need some more rest and fluids.
I am thinking about taking a day off to just lay around and nurse him.
After three and a half years of nursing ( more than a year for my first, more than two years for my second, now six months for my little nicki), you'd think the medicalized doubts could be banished. The numbers don't mean anything. The baby does. Infant led feeding really works.
Have confidence. I remember some dry spells, where I barely had enough milk for daycare and would cry if some was wasted.
Just relax, Conor will get enough milk from you. Some babies make up for daycare by nusring at night. Your supply may reflect that he has adjusted to less milk in the day.
I haven't tried fenugreek. I really like red raspberry leaf tea ( in bulk from any healthfood store). Also, Traditional Medicinals Mother's Milk tea tastes great, and seems to give me back what I feed to Nicholas.
Keep up the good work. So nice to know there are other nursing moms out there.
Thanks for reminding me that I am not alone. Nicholas has been nursing almost nonstop for a couple days. We even fed him some rice cereal to fill him up yesterday. He's six month and I am just about ready to make solids a regular part of his day. Currently I have just been letting him taste.
I was worried about my supply, if he is getting enough, is he growing, then I read your post. Seems easier to see now. Just need some more rest and fluids.
I am thinking about taking a day off to just lay around and nurse him.
After three and a half years of nursing ( more than a year for my first, more than two years for my second, now six months for my little nicki), you'd think the medicalized doubts could be banished. The numbers don't mean anything. The baby does. Infant led feeding really works.
Have confidence. I remember some dry spells, where I barely had enough milk for daycare and would cry if some was wasted.
Just relax, Conor will get enough milk from you. Some babies make up for daycare by nusring at night. Your supply may reflect that he has adjusted to less milk in the day.
I haven't tried fenugreek. I really like red raspberry leaf tea ( in bulk from any healthfood store). Also, Traditional Medicinals Mother's Milk tea tastes great, and seems to give me back what I feed to Nicholas.
Keep up the good work. So nice to know there are other nursing moms out there.
Wednesday, March 02, 2005
Love Is..
My darling Vinny is back. So nice to see him. Evil twin came for a long visit. I wondered if Vinny would be back.
That look. That smile. The way he stands in my way no matter what I am doing. I love that man.
Is there another baby in the works? I have been reading pregnant infertile blogs and am grateful Nikko was so easy. At 38 am I going to do it again?
Monday, February 21, 2005
The journey continues
Happy Month Day Nicholas.
Currently he has one tooth half out, rolls over at will, sometimes crawls backwards, says ma ma and other sentences, but you need imagination to hear. He likes to be held, and carried. Totally breast fed. He shows a great interest in eating. Wants to see it happening, occasionally grabs the plate. He threw my paper plate on the floor yesterday.
He cannot sit up yet. Once he can I will start solids for entertainment.
Off to weight watchers, How did I do?
Up 3 pounds.
The number went the wrong way... But my actions should help soon.
I have been cooking more, I have been exercising, I have been drinking more water. Maybe some sunshine, or a trip to the tanning booth may help.
At least Vinny says I look better. The Number on the scale isn't the final answer. If I change so will it, but it takes time.
Friday, February 04, 2005
The road back
Time to start thinking about the journey back to pre-pregnancy weight. I was 138 just before getting pregged. I managed to gain 60 pounds this time. Seems like for each of the three kids, no matter where I started, I gained until I was about 200 pounds.
I lost the preg-weight before. Unfortunately not until the kid was 3. I remember someone asking when is the baby due, and I replied 2 years ago. She turned several colors.
Thinking is different than dieting. I cannot diet because I an still eating for two, and now he weights 16 pounds. At 4.5 months I am still his sole source of nutrition. If I just eat sensibly, I should lose at a reasonable pace.
First I need to settle on a plan. Sommersize? Weight Watchers ? Core or Flex?
Wednesday, December 08, 2004
Gotta start somewhere
Wow, my first blog. What to comment on? Saw Wil Wheaton on VH1 last night. I have been reading his blog at www.wilwheaton.net Nice to see other geeks have made it out of school.
How about the birth industry. I resent the way the medical industry has convinced women that they must go to a hospital to be delivered of their baby. I saw one reference to rescuing from the uterus. A C section pays the doctor more, a natural birth leaves them open for lawsuits.
I chose to go to a free standing birth center for my third birth. Now I am told that my maternity leave pay will be recovered because without a doctor's signature on it, they won't believe I had a baby. Birth certificate, Soc, nope, good enough for the government, but not for Unicare.
How about the birth industry. I resent the way the medical industry has convinced women that they must go to a hospital to be delivered of their baby. I saw one reference to rescuing from the uterus. A C section pays the doctor more, a natural birth leaves them open for lawsuits.
I chose to go to a free standing birth center for my third birth. Now I am told that my maternity leave pay will be recovered because without a doctor's signature on it, they won't believe I had a baby. Birth certificate, Soc, nope, good enough for the government, but not for Unicare.
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